Home Sweet home
As I walked through the doors I was almost bowled over by a hug from Daniel and Josh.
After hugging the kids, I embraced my wife and remembered just how much I had missed her.
It was great to be home.I have often been concerned at the pressure that the Christian world puts on people to marry. The bible clearly indicates that not everybody should, or will get married.
It’s often a well-meaning thing, but as people get older in Christian circles they are often asked about their relationship status as though there is something missing if they are not attached.
However as I gave my wife a hug I must acknowledge how important my marriage is in my life.
We are very different, and it sometimes feels that our sixteen years have been hard-won.
In the process I am continually learning new things about the person I chose to spend my life with.
Our marriage feels much richer now than when we started, kind of like the way a big gum tree is more majestic and useful than a little sapling.
Have you noticed though how young trees all look the same, but old trees are unique, with scars, knots and branches that are patterned after no-one else.
This journey has changed the way I see newlyweds too.. I actually feel a bit sorry for them, knowing just how much work they will need to do in order to make their marriage work.
At this point though, I am grateful we have done the work we have, and I know I just would not be the same person had I not stood up the front of the Hobart Church of Christ and said “I do”.
I love what the author of Proverbs 31 says:
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
I don’t think there is actually any woman on earth that fulfills all of what Proverbs 31 says all the time, but I think it captures a bit of how I felt as I hugged Leeanne this morning.
I know we have a long way to go, and there are going to be more things that create knarls and scars, but the journey is certainly worth it.
I love my wife.